Cultivated Management, Education and Personal Development

Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business

One of the things that held me back for years was the fear of what other people thought about me. It stopped me achieving greater potential earlier in my career. It prevented me from speaking at conferences. It stopped me writing and blogging. I’ll be honest, it can still creep in and be an issue now. But as I age (mature?) I have less of this. I just wished I’d been able to conquer this earlier.

One thing I keep coming back to is the phrase:

Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business

It doesn’t matter what they think of you as long as you act with integrity, honesty and do the work. It is, of course, easier to write this than to live it, but I reckon if you can conquer this feeling earlier (or you don’t have it in the first place) you’ll strive as a manager.

Why?

Because you will need to ruffle other people’s feathers, you’ll need to do work that others think is crazy, you’ll need to support ideas and initiatives that have never been done before, you will fail occasionally (if you are pushing forward). And in all of these circumstances if you can come away not worrying what other people think – you’ll be able to move forward with confidence. Just don’t use this as an excuse to upset people 🙂